40 Condolence Messages To Write On Funeral Flowers For Family

Writing condolence messages on funeral flowers for a family can be difficult. You want to make sure you are offering sincere messages of condolences without overstepping or upsetting any family members. As a result, it can always feel a little uncomfortable trying to find the right words to write.

Everyone comes with good intentions when it comes to writing a sympathy card or message on funeral flowers and if you are here it means you are trying to come with the best intentions also. Although we often want to say more in our condolence messages to family members who are grieving, it is better at the time of the funeral to keep your messages short and supportive.

You can always follow up a few days or weeks later with a more substantial message or call to check in.

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We have put together 40 examples of what you could write on funeral flowers or a sympathy card for the family and have also given some examples below of what not to write.

40 examples of what to write on funeral flowers for a family

Here are some phrases or sentences you could write in a sympathy card or on funeral flowers. Pick the one that sounds most natural to you and don’t be afraid to add a line if you feel you want to add just a little more to any of the messages below.

1. “With deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences.”
2. “In loving memory of [Name], forever in our hearts.”
3. “Thinking of you during this difficult time.”
4. “With heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beloved [Name].”
5. “Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.”
6. “Wishing you strength and comfort in the days ahead.”
7. “May beautiful memories bring you peace and solace.”
8. “With love and sympathy during this time of sorrow.”
9. “Our deepest condolences for your loss.”
10. “In loving memory of a life so beautifully lived.”
11. “Remembering [Name] with fondness and admiration.”
12. “May you find comfort in the arms of family and friends.”
13. “With heartfelt sympathy and understanding.”
14. “Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.”
15. “With love and remembrance.”
16. “May the support of those who care for you bring you strength.”
17. “In loving memory of a dear [relation].”
18. “Wishing you peace and healing in the days ahead.”
19. “With sincere condolences and warmest thoughts.”
20. With deepest sympathy and understanding as you navigate this difficult time.”
21. “May you find comfort in the love that surrounds you.”
22. “Sending you strength and courage to face the days ahead.”
23. “In memory of a life that brought joy and inspiration to many.”
24. “Wishing you moments of peace and reflection as you remember [Name].”
25. “With heartfelt condolences and a shoulder to lean on.”
26. “May the legacy of [Name] live on in cherished memories.”
27. “With love and prayers for healing in your time of sorrow.”
28. “Honoring the life and legacy of a beloved [relation].
29. “With heartfelt condolences and warmest thoughts of peace.”
30. “May the love you shared bring you strength and peace.”
31. “In loving memory of someone who touched so many lives.”
32. “With sincere condolences and gentle hugs from afar.”
33. “Wishing you moments of grace and tranquility during this time.”
34. “With deepest sympathy and a promise to keep [Name] in our hearts.”
35. “May the memories you hold dear bring you comfort in the days ahead.”
36. “With love and remembrance for a life that will never be forgotten.”
37. “With deepest sympathy and the assurance of continued prayers for you and your family.”
38. “Loss leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
39. “(Name) made the world a brighter place. They will be dearly missed.”
40. “A friend, a (position in family), a person who brightened up the world. May they forever be in our thoughts and prayers”

Messages Not To Write On Funeral Flowers or Sympathy Card For Family

I have lost both parents and two siblings as well as grandparents and uncles and aunts. I have unfortunately seen it all when it comes to what people write on funeral flowers and in sympathy cards.

When I reflect now I know that anything written in a card or on flowers came with the best intentions but from experience and from helping others with their grief here are some things not to write in sympathy card or on funeral flowers.

Try to avoid anything that tells the person how they are feeling, that they should move on, give unsolicited advice, speak about yourself or your own personal experiences or talk about religion if the person is non-denominational or you are unsure of their religion.

Here are a few examples of things NOT to write on flowers or in sympathy cards:

• “They are in a better place”
• “It was their time”
• “It’s time to move on, it is what they would have wanted.’
• “They are gone now, time to move on”
• “Don’t grieve for too long”
• “They suffered a long time with “X” (normally a long term illness), they are at peace now”
• “When I lost (X – random person’s name) I was grieving for years, I hope you don’t go through the same thing”
• “Everything happens for a reason”
• “God needed another angel in heaven”
• “Time to get busy so you can distract yourself”
• “They lived a long life and we all have to go”
• “They lived a long life, don’t be sad it isn’t what they would have wanted”
• “It’s the circle of life”
  

Why you should try and avoid the above messages on flowers or sympathy cards

One of the most common phrases I heard during my own grief was “they are in a better place”. When a family member is struggling with grief and loss they are in an intense state of mourning. They have lost someone they loved and are praying that this situation is a bad dream. To try and comprehend that they will never see this person again is heartbreaking.

The last thing this person wants to hear is that their loved one is “in a better place”. This is because this person, at the most intense stages of their grief, feels that the best place for their deceased loved one is to be with them.

While some of these messages do come with the best intentions, they can be received wrong by family members who are struggling with grief.